The Path Forward – Repentance & Accountability
Mark Dooley serves as the Associate Executive-Director for the Baptist Convention of Maryland and Delaware. In that role, he leads the work of their Missional Impact Team overseeing the work of Evangelism, Disability Ministry, Disaster Relief, Compassion Ministries, and Sexual Abuse Prevention. He serves on the BCM/D’s Care Team, which seeks to assist and resource churches in protecting children and vulnerable adults. He is married to his wife, Karen, of 39 years, and together they have 4 adult children, 6 grand-children, and grand-child number 7 on the way this fall. He’s a graduate of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, and enjoys gardening and a round of golf in his spare time.
Forty-one years ago I began my first ministry as a youth pastor. The pastor called me into his office on my first day on the job to share with me that one of the church’s leading youth was pregnant. Her father was a deacon and the Sunday School Director. It was a difficult situation, for sure.
I subsequently watched unfold before me a beautiful example of repentance and accountability. The young couple acknowledged their sin, asked forgiveness, and received it from the congregation. The church body supported them and loved them through the process of bringing a beautiful baby boy into the world. Eventually, the couple married shortly after the baby was born and they had graduated from high school.
I’ll never forget the impression it made upon me when, a few years later, the young lady asked me if she could speak to the youth group. I allowed her to do so, and she shared with them that she knew they were looking at her and thinking everything was fine; that it all worked out for her and her husband with no consequences. Then she told them that she loved her son dearly, but what they didn’t know was that every day she looked at him, she was reminded that she had sinned before God – and that was a heavy cost to bear. There were, indeed, consequences.
Sexual sin comes in many forms. But whatever form it takes, the only remedy is repentance and accountability. The couple mentioned above expressed true and genuine repentance. And they willingly accepted the accountability that was asked of them. Even though the scars of their sin remained, the fruit of their repentance was a sweet-smelling aroma both to God and to the church family.
Fast forward about 20 years. A church I know planted another church. However, it was discovered the church planter had begun a sexual relationship with teens in the church plant. This was in a day before best practices for handling such a situation were well known. Even then, however, it was apparent this wasn’t something for church leadership to adjudicate. The authorities became involved and handled the situation according to the law. But the scars were deep. They were not only personal but corporate as well. For years, the shame of that incident was felt, and still is to a degree this day many years later. And, no doubt, the victims continue to feel the impact of that situation even today.
Fast forward almost 20 more years. A pastor in a church posted some pornographic pictures online. When approached, he steadfastly denied any issues, but willingly gave up his phone to be examined. It only took 2 or 3 minutes to discover numerous inappropriate pictures. He had no choice but to confess to his sexual sin. But there was no repentance. And the church wasn’t willing to face accountability for the sinful actions of their shepherd. There was no choice but to disassociate from them.
Things don’t have to proceed this way. Sexual sin may be denied, downplayed, even discarded under a cloak of lies and cover up, but the day will come when all will be revealed at the judgment seat. Waiting until that day will bring eternal disaster. Jesus said, “No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish” (Luke 13:3, ESV). Repentance and accountability are the only path forward for our Southern Baptist churches and individuals who have been impacted by any manner of sexual sin. May God enable all of us to walk the path of repentance and accountability.
“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper,
but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.”Proverbs 28:13 (ESV)
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- “Let the Children Come”: A Vision for the Church to Value and Protect the Lives of Children
Jesus’ words still echo through time: “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matthew 19:14). These words were not just a gentle invitation—they were a command. A command to the Church to make room, to open arms, to clear the way. Yet in too many places, we’ve allowed hindrances to remain. We’ve allowed silence, fear, neglect, and even abuse to take root where there should be protection, joy, and peace. - Insurance and Accountability (Part 2): A Return to the Biblical Principles of Stewardship and Justice
When the Bible and prayer were removed from public schools in the early 1960s, secular humanism filled the void. Over time, the influence of Greek philosophy and worldly ideologies seeped back into the church—just as in Paul’s day—lulling believers into thinking life can flourish apart from God’s commands. Ken Ham reminds us that Genesis 1–11 outlines both righteous judgment and the futility of hiding from God. A generation raised without a biblical worldview inevitably produces leaders unprepared to deal with sin, resulting in weak protocols and poor accountability in the church. - Insurance and Accountability (Part 1): Examining the Causes of the Abuse Crisis in Churches
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